French term (edited): amour pede chaste hetero

Haha, I know this one!

Let's remember that pédé can be an insulting word (and in passing, do please let's note that it stands for pédéraste and not pédophile!), and like similar words in EN, can be used in a non-derogatory way by more-or-less involved persons who reclaim it for themselves — and this is I believe how it is being used here, as a term of affection rather than reproof. The word 'queer' is used similarly in today's gay culture, and I think fits perfectly in this text.

I'm not sure about keeping 'chaste' in EN, which I think has a slightly different connotation from what I believe is intended here in FR; there must be other words that could be even better, but for the moment, I can only think of 'unconsummated' — which I suggest rather than 'platonic', as it always leaves open the possibility that once poor old Simon is 6ft under, they might possibly move on to something else... which may possibly be hinted at in the author's « .. ne s'étaient jamais dit encore ... », suggesting that maybe they are moving in that direction now.

I think the apposition of pédé / hétéro definitely invites the corresponding queer / straight coupling in EN.

I can't quite agree with Alex's use of '-cum-' — despite his unaccustomed spurt of attempted humour, I can't help feeling this would be out of register here. :-)


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Note added at 1 heure (2011-11-05 10:30:44 GMT)
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There can exist a kind of 'pure' love between guys who would certainly identify as 'straight', which can scarcely really be described as 'homosexual', since there may not really be any 'sexual' element in it — hence why, in a way, 'queer' (used affectionately, not pejoratively) could be a good way to describe it; sadly, we don't really have a huge vocabulary for 'love between men', which after all can take all forms and occur on many levels.

French term (edited): amour pede chaste hetero

L'amour et la sexualité sont deux choses qui ne se comprennent - et ne se discutent - pas, like colours and politics.

I've not simply thrown "cum" in for good sexual measure (10cc is average, so they say, hence the band (it gets bilingually worse ...!)) , it's a legitimate word :

cum prep. with: used, chiefly in hyphenated compounds, with the general meaning "combined with", "plus" [vaudeville-cum-burlesque]
[Webster's]

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Note added at 20 mins (2011-11-05 09:45:40 GMT)
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hetEro

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Note added at 25 mins (2011-11-05 09:50:44 GMT)
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A lot of (disturbed) people probably consider that any close friendship between men is "chaste homo love". People might say that of the relationship between me and Tony, for instance, but they are wrong: I'm not chaste and he's not homo!

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Note added at 1 hr (2011-11-05 11:11:15 GMT)
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Who are these people? Presumably papa is hetero (in appearances at least). Is Jean-Pierre gay, and burying his partner, Simon? If this is the case, there need be no insinuation about any in-the-closet homosexuality on anyone's part. There are many kinds of homosexuals, the camps, the in-your-face, the aggressives, the leathers, the promiscuous, the I'll-tell-you-all-about-what-Maurice-did-to-me-last-night, and the quiet, unpromiscuous (that is not to say chaste) reclusives you'd hardly guess were gay. As with my Paris neighbours Alain and Georges, you can get two types forming a couple. Alain was neat, shy and retiring, perceptibly gay, Georges rough, unshaven, and hardly perceptibly gay - and a lover of cats.

I wonder if Jean-Pierre and Simon were in a long-standing, faithful relationship, making J-P "chaste" in the eyes of the speaker.
He and "papa" might have been good friends, but who kept their distance, people who might have readily embraced and "kissed" (in the French sense) each other (as close French male friends do) had J-P not been gay - for fear of misunderstanding, if not by themselves, then by onlookers. A bit like politicians refusing even the "diplomatic handshake" to certain heads of state.
Funerals can change relationships. It is a time when you can overcome inhibitions and express hitherto repressed feelings, even if only momentarily. In France that can mean kissing and hugging a person, male or female, even if only as a greeting, whose hand you would have shaken previously. Since a recent funeral I have been on embracing terms with male members of the deceased's family I hardly know, whereas previously it was handshake only.
So "papa" and J-P embrace because the situation makes it "normal" to do so, despite inhibitions. That they "loved each other so" need not imply sexual attachment. They may have loved each other as friends but never expressed that (platonic) affection through physical contact - other than those "manly" slaps on the shoulder or punch in the ribs. "Papa" is hetero, J-P is "unpromiscuously gay" - in which case my "cum" is out, which will please Tony, so to speak. "Love" might be too strong too, and my answer should read "hetero - quiet/chaste/unpromiscuous gay affection".
The above is pure guesswork. Does it fit your scenario?

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Note added at 4 hrs (2011-11-05 13:33:18 GMT)
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Just to underscore my interpretation while awaiting more context or at least some punctuation, I'm reading this as "amour pede chaste / hetero" or "l'amour (platonique; affection, profonde amitié) entre un pédé chaste et un hétéro.
Any normal, well-balanced heterosexual male should be able to enjoy friendship with any normal, well-balanced homosexual male in the same way he enjoys friendship with other heterosexual males with whom common interests are shared. There should be no reason why sexual preferences outside that relationship should get in the way of things, even if for many people (who maybe are not mature, well-balanced, etc.) they do.